Psychology talks about ‘mirror neurons’ that activate in an organism and is replicated by another who is witnessing the emotional response triggered by those neurons. In common terms it is called Empathy.
As man is a social animal, it is impossible to not get affected by the troubles and happy times of neighbours, friends and family. Thus empathy becomes the very tool with which pro-social or helping behaviour develops. To the ones in need a friend is most welcome to share the reflection, divergence and uncertainty that afflicts them. Generally the compassion from the friend or relative is followed by suggestions.
A traumatic mind may accept those ideas but doesn’t absorb them. As advice from the other person is always through their own experiences, they may not really be something the distressed may identify with. In such situations, to alleviate the pain of the worried, a good idea is to go beyond empathy.
♥ By going beyond empathy, which is more than guidance; things might really transform for the saddened ♥
By ‘going beyond empathy’ I mean, providing facts, concrete examples, and proofs. Ideas are vague but results are always tangible. So giving a tangible counsel is a possibility of hope. And hope is all an organism needs to conquer all odds.
by Kleio Bhagwati (Team Aikya-Oneness)
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My heartfelt like to the article Anna. Be kind and care to get into empathetic life. Every feeling is tagged with emotions and gets into act. One need to be little careful before expressing the heart breaking hard thoughts.
Many a time with relationship the emotions and the way people behave also changes. I wonder why? Same situation a sister is in , a mother is in, a husband is in, a brother is in, a friend is …. Just I wonder why our expectations from different people always changes. Grace marks are given only to those whom we give special place as relatives, and rest are not. I get a smile when I think all these and people get into decisions.
If my MOM does it’s okay….If my sister does it’s okay…If my brother does it’s fine…but when my child and spouse does it’s not…when my friend does it’s not…oh!! Empathy comes as a real fact when we treat everyone with grace of kindness and care without any labels.
Thank you Roopika for your appreciation and question.
Every action in this world is an act of kindness. The difference is in its purpose. Is it for my own benifit or is it for the good of others? Empathy is when we put our own selves in another person’s place to understand his or her issues or point of views.
Every person’s equation with another person is different. For example a persons equation with his/her mother and that with a sibling will be different. Thus everyone’s reaction to different people even in the same situation cannot be the same.
Empathy is not an act of kindness but wisdom. Sympathy is an act of kindness. People usually get mixed up with the two.
Hope the explanation helps.
Wishing you Luck,
Kleio.