If I say, most of us are completely ignorant what the meaning of this precious life is? How to lead a harmonious life? What deeds are to be performed to avoid the complexities of our lives? Is it possible to transcend many barriers we face in our lives? The simple answer is if you understand the purpose of life, and follow the sequence of lifestyle correctly, you can cross any obstacles, but it needs looking into the various activities of life openly and not with a colored spectacle. Further, one must focus on the happenings of the present without dwelling on the past, and not being confined in the fantasies of the future. Since we are mostly blind to the present moment, we find the journey of life very cumbersome, and it creates conundrums for many. The religious minded people, monks, and sages do not find their lives with complexities at all because they lead their lives smoothly intermixed with spiritual fervor.
To understand the complexities of life and to solve the problems of life, you need to analyze the role of mind – how it works and operates – how the critical problems arise under the influence of our thoughts, which mostly behave like a restless child. You cannot justify the complexities of different issues of life saying, “Oh! My God why are you giving me so many sufferings?” If you observe attentively, you will identify that your wrongdoings only create all the sufferings. If you cannot solve your problem, or if you are exaggerating the gravity of a simple problem, it then becomes a complex one. The wise people see their lives mostly without constraints because of their nature. Even the restrictions faced by them, they don’t identify the same as problems. They understand and learn by observing the book of life metaphorically, and not by reading books, scriptures or quotes. If your mind center is full of complexities, you identify everything as a problem, or you tend to find negative seeds in an otherwise positive environment. Then, you will see all the issues as a complicated one.
If your soul is pure, your mind is not prejudiced, you do not want to buy any argument arisen out of wrong cultural perceptions imbibed by your parents, you will cross any hurdles in life. Further, if you always observe the daily issues as a passing phase, you can easily handle the complex situation of life without many obstacles. Also, if your center is not smitten by greed and not lost in types of additions, your world becomes a vivacious, joyous and tranquil, and you will enjoy the every second of life. But if obsessive desires influence your center, you will see the world with a colored spectacle. You cannot enjoy the different beauties of life because you have the tenacity to go behind many desires, lust, greed, and impulsiveness. Most of us cannot control these parameters of life and so, they consider the underlying issues as a problematic one.
Have you ever tried to ponder why people make their lives complicated? Is there any reason when we all know that the life is for a fixed period? We are born here, do our duties, accomplish some feats, wish to receive the blessings of God depending on our urge to show reverence for Him and finally, we die. Unfortunately, barring people, who roam on the spirit of the fourth dimension even though they are living persons of this third-dimensional world, most of us are clueless about this fact of complexities. Our mind is always full of dust, dirt, and various ingredients, namely anger, hatred, jealousy, and unhappiness. The reason of complications are that we have no time to introspect or we just lost our time in filling what we have thought based on the assumption that the same would be the best thoughts. In short, we have no control over our mind. Why human beings become complicated? The reason, we fail to analyze and have no time to look ourselves, love ourselves and hear our inner voices. We have time for everything except to identify our inner self. We always think what we want, what our children are supposed to do and what should be our limitations. And these types of self-defined and biased thoughts which produce a hypnotic state of mind are the cause of creating complexities.
If any intruders invade our freedom to our liking or disliking, we retaliate, and when the disliking are more, the frustration level goes up. We get tensed, irritated and sometimes outburst and finally, making lives hell. What you have to do?
You have to scrutinize your center and free the same from the influence of likings and disliking. If you get caught in between these two aspects, your thoughts will create ripples of waves in your process of reflection and the same will be full of complexities. It will not only hamper your onwards movement in your life’s journey, but also it will affect your mental peace. Further, being confined in the clutch of likes and dislikes, you will not be in a position to observe anything with full concentration. To be free from likes and dislikes, and then see, involve different types of observations altogether which is the qualitative aspect of deep introspection. For example, when a psychologist observes a patient, he is free from his likes and dislikes as he does not want to watch as per his choices.
The important question is how to free yourself from the bondage of likes and dislikes. These issues are fundamental and meaningful. Most of the time, we program and load ourselves with the conclusion that it is but natural to get guidance from our likes and dislikes. That is how our parents teach us whether the same is right or wrong is a subject of debate. When you discriminate your opinion between I want this or I don’t want this, I like this, or I don’t like – these are the movement of thoughts. Without thoughts, no likes and dislikes can appear at all. In this way, we make mistakes. We get defined by our thoughts. If one’s thought has likes or dislikes as its original contents helping to decide the course of living on a day to day basis, then one gets identified with this, and hence, the movement of various thoughts become imbibed, and then it would be difficult to change. It is the error we all do in our lives to create the matter worsened. Thoughts, with its likes and dislikes, reside in an inner space, and this is beyond comprehension. Unless we have control on this, we cannot kill complexities of life. In sleep, we are not governed by thoughts, but we exist. When we are conscious, thoughts always pollute our mind like we spoil our health eating junk foods. The center is pure, empty and space. We need to make it simplified to handle the most complicated issues with ease. By increasing the observation power continually without the provocation of likes and dislikes, it is possible. Our minds are programmed so much with what we know and do not know. In that space, we don’t allow the entry of actual, and this attitude is harmful. Remember, to avoid complexities, and you have to learn to discover the truth, and then only you can guide your life to move forward.
Written by D.B.Basu
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