Relationship forms a base of our life. Either it is family, friends colleagues in the office or even a neighborhood. It supports us emotionally to be stable in the surrounding we are in with them. Added to that, it also provides a sense of identity in the society that you are not alone in this World.
Nurturing a relationship is constantly required to keep that Ship sailing smooth. One does encounter distress, as we are all dealing with human minds. I deeply emphasize the aspect of human mind, as it becomes vital in any relationship. Mind, a source of our Ego.
We commonly come across situations, whether in blood relationship or otherwise goes into distress. Many would say, it is unbelievable to know as how it has happened. Probably, we all can identify with this situation as one may be experiencing it now. Then, what causes us to move into this state.
If it closely analysed, one knows that the doors of being Godly is shut in our heart. What does this mean? I am right in what I did and he is responsible for this. One finds it easier to pass on the responsibility of the situation on others. Are we also not responsible for this?
The clarity of mind comes when one is calm. That is possible in stillness, an attribute of God. In that state, only love flows. One experience no hatred towards others. A wisdom which Patanjali, an ancient Indian sage gave us for better relationship.
Include them in your life, those excluded from theirs. Keep them in your circle of love. Connect them with the heart, not through mind. Let our ego melt away raising us to a higher level to show the divinity in us. That is the power of every human being. People come into our life for a purpose. Let us gratify them with love for what they have taught. It is easier said than done to love those who hate. But,it can be done.
As Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do
” A powerful wisdom to be deeply understood.
For one who did, may not know what it means to be in hatred.
Only love flows.
Written from the heart of Ram (Ramesh Kumar K)
Founder – Managing Trustee Aikya-Oneness Foundation
Reach the writer on:aikya.oneness@gmail.com
If there is hatred towards some one, how to deal with it?
Appaji…. How to deal with hatred is a wonderful Question. If you ask me, as per my perception…the cause what we hate which is opposite to our expectations. When we eliminate that expectation and accept the person and situation as they are, the bitterness will vanish from our heart and the same is reflected to others too. The person whom we were hating will also start changing from time and then.
But the challenge is to remove the dent which we have made in our heart. We are the reason for everything which happens in our lives. We hold others responsible completely forgetting that we were also part of that. When we stop accepting or giving the permission to such happenings in our lives and stop being part of it..we are just observers and not part..in such case we just keep moving on in life without getting carried away with such bitterness.
This is where forgiveness of self and others play and major role to forget and move on. If you hurt your little finger what would you do? Will it get angry or will it co-operate to get cured and again ready to support. We also need to be like our body part..consider all as your part then you don’t hate anything and anyone.
A wonderful article Ram. Yes hate is just a inner feeling of love. Love takes this shape when the person or the happenings are not as per our expectations…but still they are all part and all are connected. Thanks for the nice article. An eye opener.
“Vasudaiva Kutumbakam” is what one can be.
It is possible through being with oneself.Because it is the peace of individuals who constitute the society which matters.
The inter relationship is to be on a feeling the oneness, of equality. It has be understood that equality does not mean the absence of difference but awareness of essential unity.Brotherhood would mean the presence of a feeling of oneness.
Well stated on Brotherhood, relationship, oneness and society & individual.
Hi Ram… A great conclusion with Jesus words. Yes forgive them as they are ignorant and do not know what they are doing. As you know now and grown beyond those past situations, just forgive them as your children (irrespective of relationship you are holding) and keep moving blessing them. When you forgive you are father to all as you are executing a Godly act.
Thanks…
Yes, it’s Akka.
It is frustrating to love someone and see them go through this. We have no concept of what they are going through or what it must be like. I’m astounded that basically someone with this illness has to diagnose/treat themselves. That is ridiculous. Jeri is so damn intelligent that she is making the doctors more educated. It be that way.